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Rod

saline, United States

  Posted: 20 Mar, 2010 15:13:55 Starter

 

Let me start by saying I am a vary trusting person. I was talking to a lady from Wuhan for a period of time. Her friend had a camera phone and a computer I got a picture of her Daughter, we tried to e-mail a little bit that was not easy. The translation sites are not vary good. So I know she was real. She wanted some information so she could go to a fortuneteller to see if thinks would work out between us. The fortuneteller had bad news. I tried to e-mail her, finely after a week or so her friend e-mailed me, told me Liping was a good lady and very upset with what the fortuneteller said. We kept in touch with an e-mail every couple or months or so. I started talking to an other lady from Urumchi. I talked with her for about 6 months, and when I was getting ready to go to china to meet her she told me another man came to meet her in spring festival and her family liked him. I did send her a nice and understanding letter. But the more I think about it, I think that lady was not real. What do you think? Liping started to talk to me again though the agency in Wuhan. This was a day after the other relationship ended. We have not e-mail each other for a while. She told me her friend moved to a different city so she has no computer. I do really like Liping, but Do you think the agency in Wuhan is playing me or is it really Liping? Like I said, I'm a vary trusting person. Your opinions and advice is much needed. Thank you




Michael

Nashan, China

  Posted: 23 Mar, 2010 17:22:24 # 1

  Rod, you could be very well being played. Difficult to say because lack of more specific details. Ask the important questions upfront {no beating around the bush}, ask for everyday pix, try for webcam, QQ, or MSN live. If she balks at any of these could be a setup. If she is real she'll not be happy with the third degree yet she probably comply. Read the forums to get a better idea of what you're getting into. This thing is expensive no matter how things go. Heed the red flags, do not go in with blinders because she's hot and you're desperate. Truth be told I went through 3 serious relationships here and I've lived here almost 15 months now. No foolproof way of doing this. Being overly trusting is a sure way of getting burned in China. Dog eat dog here, only the strong survive in this environment. I only really pursued one on here that ultimately ended in a breakup after 6 months, second girlfriend after 3 months and the third one after another 3 months. Almost gave up when I met the one I'm sure is the one I'll marry and start a family with. Don't let your heart dictate just basic commonsense. Believing something so hard does not necessarily make it a reality. If you are honest and sincere I'm sure you can wade through the grifters that seem ever so prevalent on the internet. Remember it takes a little coin to do anything in life. It is for the rest of your life so with that in mind you do need to take a leap of faith in life. My Chnlove girl didn't work out yet I believe this is one of the closest to real sites out there. No, I do not work for Chnlove either, this site changed my life and I'll be forever grateful and that is why I still post on this forum. I have no agenda to bolster, hell, I live in China so my 40 EMFs have been sitting in my account for the last year. Good luck and hope things pan out for you.
China Shark Mike


s

Long Island City, United States

  Posted: 24 Mar, 2010 07:20:02 # 2

  Rod,

wuhan is a big city. they have internet cafe. you may ask the lady to email you in chinese and pipe it through a translator (google translate) but keep in mind that the message will be horrible after translation. read into the spirit not the words. write somethng in english and translated to chinese and back again into english.

fortune tellers. based on your belief and her belief it may or maynot play an important role. the ft also did the same to me but most of the ladies did not listen to the FT. she may have decided to relize and woke up. BUT if she insist on the agency then MOVE on.

how well are you in speaking chinese? you can call her but the language barrier may be an embarrassment for her to speak english.

sam


jon

seattle, United States

  Posted: 08 Jul, 2012 06:31:15 # 3

  All it takes is one red flag...and you have one! Wuhan is a city that is internet friendly, surely a girl has a e-mail or a friend that does!

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